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When making decisions makes life hard.
We make constant decisions in our life and sometimes the responsibility of those choices can be overwhelming. I believe that we all know all the answers to all the questions we will ever ask. We just need to learn to tap back into that ‘all knowing’ part of ourselves.
In a modern day society we are faced with more choice than we know what to do with. Enter the supermarket and the simple task of choosing a pot of yoghurt becomes a minefield of decision. Plain? With fruit? With sugar? Sweetener? Large pot? Small pot? How about a multi pack? Ask for a coffee these days and you’ll be faced with 20 questions to answer before you’re final choice can be made. Making the ‘wrong’ decision about a pot of yoghurt or a cup of coffee is unlikely to have far reaching effects on the total quality of your life.
Making decisions about your job, partner, home, health and wealth however is a different story. It’s no wonder then that many of us go into panic mode when faced with major life decisions. And it’s no wonder that some of us choose to make no decision at all. We choose to stay stuck in situations that are no longer doing us any favours.
So just how can we get back to that all-knowing part of ourselves? There are lots of ways to tap into our intuition, our sixth sense and our higher self. Meditation can be a major key to this (see simple tips to meditation), but there are all sorts of reasons why that may not be a part of your life. So here are some quick fixes that can help you make choices you will be happy with.
1. Take two pieces of paper and write on them your two possible choices. This could be a simple yes or no or a full sentence. Fold the pieces of paper up so that they look identical, shuffle them up and put them in front of you. Close your eyes for a few moments and try to centre yourself. Then reach out and pick up one of the papers, open it up, read the words and focus on your first feeling. This will be the instant feeling you get, it will quickly get caught up in your thoughts so make sure you focus on that first second of reading you ‘answer’. What did you feel? Happiness? Disappointment? Did you feel ‘Oh, yes!’ or was it ‘Oh, no!’ Remember focus on that first feeling, not on what you thought about the feeling!
2. If you are caught up in a decision about an emotional issue (& lets face it most our major decisions mean we are emotionally involved) shift your focus to a practical ‘problem’. Fix a shelf, paint a wall, work out a complicated calculation, clean the fridge. Whatever it is, make it practical. This will shift the focus to the left side of your brain and give the emotional right side a chance to sort things out in peace.
3. Look yourself in the eye! Sit comfortably in front of a mirror and tell yourself what you plan to do. Say each choice as though it is fact, starting sentences with “I am……..” Which one feels most comfortable? If you found yourself looking away, or staring more intently during a particular statement ask yourself why that particular decision means avoiding yourself.
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